The unfortunate truth is that in a lot of homes there is no real division line when it comes to household chores. This means that housework, children, and social outings tend to fall on the shoulders of the women of the house. After a lengthy period of time it is normal for a lot of women to become bitter and resentful.
This is especially true if the woman of the house is also juggling a day job and then the housework turns into a second shift job. In order to prevent a meltdown in your marriage, you need to create an action plan that can help create a peaceful balance so you can both more forward.
Create a List of Chores
Believe it or not some husbands do not help around the house as much as they could be simply because they are oblivious to all that you do on a daily basis. It is not meant to be inconsiderate simply that you do such a great job they do not even realize all of the work that is getting done. This is why it helps to start by creating a list of all the household chores. Creating a list will make it easier for your husband to see the amount of work you do on a daily and weekly basis and where he can help. A typical chore list for a housewife includes:
- Keeping the house clean
- Laundry (including washing, folding, and putting it away)
- Grocery shopping (any additional store visits)
- Washing the dishes
- Paying the bills and organizing the finances
- Yard work (gardening, mowing, etc.)
- Getting the children to all of their appointments and activities
- Caring for any household pets
Define Your Task List
Next, you are going to want to put your household chores into categories. Basically, you should be organizing your list of chores by what you consider to be easy tasks, moderate tasks and hard tasks. For example, washing the floors is going to be a more moderate task than doing the dishes.
Try Just Asking For Help
Have you ever actually asked your husband for help around the house? There are a lot of women who whine about never getting help, but never take the time to ask for it. How can your husband know that you need a hand around the house if you’ve never taken the time to ask for it? Just express the fact that you need a break or that you could use a hand.
Attacking your husband and telling him that he does not help out around the house enough is not the right approach to getting the help you need. You have to thank your husband for all the things he already helps you with. Once he feels appreciated and needed you can explain how you could really use his help and skills doing certain chores in the house. You have to approach the situation by telling him how little changes would really help you out.