If you’re struggling to conceive but really want a baby, you may have been told about other options. Adopting a child is one of your options and could be better than going through IVF and other fertility treatments that can be expensive and aren’t guaranteed. However, adopting isn’t right for everyone and here are some tips to help decide if it is right for you.
Depending on your area, there may be a long waiting list for adopting a child. You could have to wait up to two years for your little one to come to you.
You may feel like you’ve already waited long enough and you don’t want to go through the process. There’s no guarantee at the end that you will be suitable for adopting.
While you don’t need to be financially ready for your own baby, you will need to be for adopting. The social workers need to make sure that you are in a position to offer the best home possible for the child.
They want the best for them and you should too. Don’t rely on the waiting time to get your finances in order; start now.
You may not get to adopt a baby. There may be older children who are more suitable for your circumstances. It is important to discuss with your partner what your options are and whether you can skip the first few years.
It can cause a lot of bonding problems, especially if the older child has been passed around the system a lot.
Older children may have had negative experiences. They may have suddenly been put in the social care system or may have been there for years bouncing between families.
They don’t feel like they belong and it causes psychological problems. Are you ready for something like this?
Even if you have a newborn, it can be hard to bond with your adopted child. When you have your own baby, you have nine months to prepare and bond. Mothers get to bond as they feel the kicks and hear the heartbeat on the scans.
You don’t get that with your child. You may be lucky enough to meet the birth mother and attend scans but that doesn’t necessarily help with the bonding.
There will be a lot of visits from social workers during and after the adoption process.
It can become draining, especially when you’re waiting to hear whether the answer is a yes or a no. You may feel like the end is never in sight.
There are different types of adoptions to choose from. You could be accepted as one who meets the birth parents or you may opt for some through the system.
Do your research, find out the pros and cons and learn more about the processes before you even start thinking about apply for adopting a child.