Friends come and go, especially during the earlier years. However, as you get older, you will have a few certain friends who you rely on the most. One wrong move or one bad word could lead to that friendship breaking down. There is also an issue if you move away. Here are some top tips to mend those broken friendships and get back on track.
When you know you’re in the wrong, don’t let your pride get in the way of friendship. Offer an apology. It could be because you forgot her birthday, or it could be something more serious.
However, avoid excuses when it comes to the apology. Simply say “sorry” and leave it at that. If she is unwilling to forgive you or wants to hear a reason why, that is up to her.
The worst thing that either of you can do is bring your partners into the argument or disagreement. It shows that you can’t stand your own ground, and it can feel like you are ganging up on her—or vice versa.
If you don’t like her husband for any reason, you can always ask that your meetings are just the two of you. That way, you don’t have to mention him or deal with his presence.
She or you may be dating each other’s ex—or you want to. There are friends who deal with this. However, you need to understand your friend’s feelings about the matter.
Even when the breakup was mutual, she may not feel comfortable with him being around you all the time. Discuss the matter like adults, and respect her decision. If she doesn’t want to see him, suggest that you date him but you just have girly days so she can avoid it (or vice versa).
If you’ve moved away, it’s really easy to lose touch. The problem is that when you realise it has been months, you are more likely to lose touch for longer because it doesn’t become a priority.
Make her a priority and get back in touch. It could be a simple Facebook conversation if you’re thousands of miles apart, or you may choose to meet up for a drink when you’re both in town.
You’re both going to do things that upset each other. The worst thing that you can do is bottle it all up.
You need to talk to each other and admit when there is something that bothers you. It could be the smallest thing in the world, but if you let it eat you up it will just get bigger and cause a strain on your relationship.
Some people are just useless at meeting up on time. If she is one of those people, you could arrange to meet where you wouldn’t mind waiting for her. Or you could tell her an earlier time.
If you’re the one that arrives late, make it a habit to think about your travel plans and surprise her by turning up on time for once!