Are you and your husband going separate ways? Could it really be time to divorce and move on? This is a difficult time and there is no easy option. Here are some things to think about before you decide to bring an end to your marriage.
Is it possible to repair your marriage? You may think no at first, depending on the reason for the divorce, but you could try couples therapy.
This works for some and can help you find a spark back in the relationship or learn to trust each other again. However, some marriages are simply better coming to an end. A therapist will be able to help you come to that decision.
Don’t just straight to the idea that the marriage is over because of one thing. You need to take some time to really think about this. Is it really over?
Are you overreacting to a situation or could you work it out by talking to each other? Is this something that has really been going on for a while now but you didn’t want to admit it?
While your finances shouldn’t dictate everything, it is worth thinking about them in the event of a divorce. It can be expensive, especially if both parties do not want to separate.
You will also need to consider the thought that one income will be leaving the household. If you’re a stay-at-home mum, that could cause problems for your financial situation and lead to you going back to work.
There may be other people in the family that you need to think about. If you have children, you will need to consider what it does to them. At the same time, consider what will happen if you do decide to stay together.
Will it be worse for the people around you? This could be something that you talk to a therapist about to make sure it is the best for everyone.
When you divorce, everything changes. You will need to think about how your childcare arrangements will work, and who will look after them full time. This is a conversation you need to have together, especially if one parent is responsible in more ways than the other one.
If the divorce is mutual, you may be able to come to an agreement about how the childcare will work. If not, it could mean a trip to the courts and do you really want that?
You will need to file for divorce through the courts and this could mean hiring an attorney. Unless the divorce is mutual and you can come to an agreement, an attorney is essential to make sure you the divorce is fair for you.
This will involve how the belongings are split and how finances are worked out, along with childcare.