There are some secrets that should be kept from your partner. They’re not going to hurt him and could help to keep the peace. However, there are certain things people say or that you do that you really need to own up to and share with your love. This helps to deal with the situation and move on from it. Working as a team is much better.
When There’s Financial Problems
You’ve maxed out all your credit cards on your spending. This is an issue for the household as a whole, so you need to fess up. Explain to your partner in a gentle way and be upfront about what has caused it. This will not only stop him from overspending—or not being able to buy a necessity—it will also help you deal with it and your possible spending problem.
You’re Drinking by Yourself
There’s nothing wrong with having an afternoon out with the girls. Your husband will want you to have some fun, like you want him to. However, if you’re drinking alone it’s a sign that there is a problem. You need to talk to him about this. He will find out eventually, and probably not from you, so you need to be upfront so he can help.
Resentment from the Last Argument
There’s something he said previously and it’s been eating you up inside. The feeling is turning into resentment but you’re trying to put on a smile every time you see him. You can’t let these feelings go unspoken. Talk to your partner about it and tell him why it upset you. Try to keep calm. He doesn’t know what you’ve been feeling so you can’t blame him for being surprised.
You’ve Told the Kids Something You Shouldn’t
When there is something going on between you, it’s better to shield the kids. However, they pick up on things or you may say something without really meaning to. You need to let your husband know about this, so he’s ready for any questions and so the children don’t need to keep secrets themselves.
He’s Not Satisfying You
You could be having trouble in the bedroom, or you may be struggling in your relationship altogether. It’s really important to be upfront about this. You may think that bottling up works and the feelings of being unsatisfied will go away, but that hardly ever happens. If he doesn’t know, nothing will change. You need to tell him so you can both discuss your feelings and thoughts on the relationship. You never know; he may feel the same.
You Have Skeletons in Your Closet About to Come Out
Everyone has a past. You may have people from your past who you’ve never spoken to your husband about, but they’re coming back into your life. It’s best to let him know about them and whether there are dangers or anything that may happen. If he knows, he’ll be able to help you through it and be prepared should those skeletons come knocking at your door.