Being a military wife is hard. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married to a member of the Armed Forces, there are ups and downs on a regular basis. It does get easier to deal with but here are some tips to help you get started.
There are so many people in the same situation as you. Make friends with them and get to know the other wives on the base. You will find that there are cliques and most enlisted wives won’t mix with the officers’ wives but that doesn’t stop you from making friends.
Other wives will offer support, help you find your way around a new base and even offer tips to deal with this lifestyle.
If you already have children or you have children with your military husband, you need to get them ready for this lifestyle.
Encourage them to make friends but make it clear that every couple of years you will all move onto different bases. Encourage them to swap email addresses, phone numbers and social media accounts to keep in touch with each other.
Your husband being away can be the hardest part of this so you need to find something to do. Some military wives will now look for a career that they can take with them.
You may set up your own online business or learn a new skill that you can take anywhere. Pick up a new hobby or volunteer somewhere. It takes your mind off the fact that he is away!
There are meetings on a regular basis with all the wives. These go over events happening on the base and are also there for support should you need it.
Join the group that is linked to your husband’s rank and take part in the different activities. You will make new friends quickly and find the time flies by.
Don’t moan to your husband about him being away all the time. He can’t help it. Support him in what he does. You married him for everything, including the fact that he fights for his country.
If you support him then you will find the marriage is smoother and you will have more fun together.
It can be really hard when you are on your own, which is why meeting family is so important. Arrange weekend trips if your family is close by or spend a week or two away while your husband is somewhere else.
You will have someone to talk to and not even notice how long your husband is away.
Always sort out your differences before you hang up on the phone. You don’t want to go to bed angry and you don’t want him to be annoyed while he is on the other side of the world.
Marital problems affect the men in the field. If there are issues, sort them out when he gets home.